I really wanted to do a Maternity Leave Project Wrap Up post, but having 2 kids & getting back to work is proving to be more difficult than I thought. Even though I started work last week, this is the first week that contains actual traveling. Today was the first day that I had to pump & drive. Only one honk from a big rig today, so that ain't bad. Sometimes I don't understand why they're honking. I swear that I'm not driving down Interstate 71 with my boobs hanging out.
Instead of finishing up projects, we put together a "nursery". Yes, it should have been done prior to Tuck's arrival. But he came to very selfish parents who didn't want to give up their office/computer/Playstation room. Most nights he's been doing very well at making it all they way without waking up, so we felt it was time for the boys to become roommates. Gus got a twin size bed & Tuck got an actual crib. Since we let the boys cry for a bit before we run into the room, I had to explain to Gus that sometimes babies cry at night. Usually we'd let them go for about 15 minutes. It rarely goes on that long. But a couple times when we're tucking everyone in at night, we'll find Gus with his head under the pillow. Only tonight did he really complain. I went in after only a couple squeals from Tuck (I figured he wasn't done eating). While choking back his own tears, he says "I can't hear my song with Tuck crying." I almost chucked the computer into the basement & pushed the crib into the office. Almost.
On a final note, this has been bothering me for the past couple of days. If I hear one more person say the phrase "Mothers are more calm with the second one that's why they're better," I'm going to smack them in the forehead with my breast pump. Tuck is a great baby. So great, that our father asked Mom if they were too old to have another child. I'm not bragging. I've had nothing to do with it. He's just a regular newborn. The kind you see on soap operas before they age into a young adult in 3 weeks. You know it's a fake baby on screen, but you hope that's how a newborn acts. People tell you that they sleep, coo, look off into the distance, & stretch. When I tell people about the difference between Gus & Tuck, I get the above phrase. I think it's rude & false. In the early hours, Tuck has only made me cry in frustration once. For the first month, Gus made me cry about 28 times. With him, I'd nurse, walk, rock, nurse, walk, begging for him to stop, shove him to SK, repeat. Tuck would nurse, require a little rocking, & go back to bed. Sure it wasn't fun some nights, but it was much better than the Gus experience. On top of all of the Gus nights, I didn't get a break during the day. Same thing. People have told me that it's because I'm used to a crying baby, or I don't feel the need to coddle him as much. Nope. I got used to Gus crying after the first week. When there was nothing I could do to calm him, I just went to the basement for a couple of minutes. Alone & it helped. Tuck just slept all day. I'm sick of people telling me that it's because I'm more calm now. Really? Not true. Is any mother truly calm with a 3 year-old running around the house? This is where I hope that we've still got a blog in 3 years. I want to see the differences between the kids then. After 4 months, Gus turned into a fabulous kid. At nine months, we said "No" & he crawled away. Mom always told me, "I'd rather have a fussy newborn & a great toddler." I wonder if roles will reverse on me this time. Those same people that feed me the Phrase are also the same people that say "All kids are different." (Why can't all newborns be different than? Why is it the mother that's different with the second one? Fuckers.) I can't wait to see.
Ok. Maternity Leave Progress Post up next. Also a Project Spectrum post. Ava, you should join me in me plan since you'll be getting all those veggies!